"My kind" or ("Your kind")

I am a little bit saddened by this phrase...
The first time I remember hearing this and that it really bothered me was during the Olympics with Gabby.
The only thing anyone could talk about after this incredible athlete won 2 gold metals was her hair. I was reading an article about how she was being made fun of and the worst part about her being made fun of was that she was being made fun of by "her own kind."
I was a bit startled by that phrase.  My thoughts are this, I want "my kind" to be people who think like me, who have the same morals as I do, who are striving towards the same goals...I don't want "my kind" to be people who look like me. I want it to be a matter of the heart, not the physical appearance.
I have a dear friend, who we think of as my daughters second mother. I love her dearly.  She is struggling with this same phrase.  She is a wonderful, kind, God fearing woman and "her kind" is just that. People who are WONDERFUL, who are KIND and LOVE GOD. She doesn't need to go searching for someone who has the same color of skin as she does, or someone talks the same way as she does to fit in. She fits in right here...in my heart. In my daughters heart.  We love her and miss her so much.  She is "MY KIND."
I hope in the future, when this phrase is spoken, people will speak of characteristics that come from inside a person and not characteristics on the outside.

I love you!!!  And you know who you are.